I Can’t stop sleeping with my Father says a 14 years old girl.

I’ve been sleeping with my father since I was 14years old and I can’t love any other man again.

I am Tinuke Ajenufuja. I hail from Ekiti state where I have two elder brothers and one elder sister.

My father is Mr. Samuel Ajenufuja. I love going out with my father and taking a bath with my father.

one faithful day, my father and i went for an outing. on getting home back home, we couldn’t meet my mum and my elder ones at home. so my father want to take shower he told me that i want to take shower on getting to the bathroom , I touched my father behind he kept silent without saying anything .

i was thinging he is going to hit my hand s but he did’nt said anything to me. the next thing i could see is my father’s body arouse. he slept with me in sidethe bathroom ever since then, my father and i enjoyed sleeping with each other.

it has gotten to stage taht my mother is now disturbing me to bring my fiance.

Disgusting things men do in relationships

Apparently, no woman likes to be cheated on, bad morning breaths, wearing the same underwear for days, farting, over-sized ego, lies, being taken for granted, being taken advantage of etc. These are most of the things we find disgusting in relationships, but we tend to compromise or be quiet about some, just so we don’t hurt your feelings.

Relationships they say, come with a lot of sacrifices from two connected individuals, who are willing to make things work. They tend to endure some things just to make the relationship work.

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you’re losing yourself. Of course, you want to stay real and genuine when you’re in an intimate relationship with someone. However, you still want to do your part in putting your best foot forward. It’s always important that you are presenting your best self towards your partner. Men do a lot of disgusting things in relationships while being completely oblivious of the fact that their partners may find them quite obnoxious. Some of those disgusting things, I took my time to outline.

Morning bad breath While some may find it romantic, especially to kiss her in the morning without brushing; many others fare not comfortable with it . Wearing the same underwear for days Exactly! ‘Eww’! That’s what I believe everyone should say too. It’s completely disgusting and I strongly believe no woman likes this. It’s wrong! It’s gross! We women find it disgusting! Please stop! There’s no justification to this. It’s only right you change your underwear EVERYDAY. That way, you save your partner the stress of continually inhaling filth and treatment of infection. Nothing is as sexy and attractive as a clean Man. Ego Ego: Every human’s sense of self-worth or self-importance.

It’s present in every human being – no doubt. However, it gets unattractive and even disgusting to women when you possess an enormously unnecessary sense of importance. You think of yourself as the best thing to ever happen to the woman on planet earth. You rub it in the face of your partner and may even tend to demean her in the process. Some even go as far as abusing their partners over trifle faults because they think they own them. A lot of women may endure this, perhaps for her unending love for you, or for what you guys share together.

Or even for any other reason whatsoever. Many women endure to keet relationship on. For whatever it is – it’s wrong! I personally find it disgusting! Some women shared their thoughts on this topic. “God! I can’t stand a man that doesn’t shave his pubes! Like how do you go months without shaving? Like do you own bacteria ‘farm’? And the annoying part is that, some of these men will request a shaved vagina but carry vegetable farms down there. To say it disgusts me is an understatement. I can’t deal with it”, said one Bimbo from Lagos. “Not being able to say sorry when he’s wrong because of his stupid ego. Its even worse when it’s glaring that he’s wrong, but he won’t apologize because he feels it makes him weak – very disgusting”, said one Mimi from Abuja. “Farting in my presence is particularly annoying and disgusting to me no matter the gender. Maybe because we were raised not to fart where people are.

This is very controversial, as some will argue that it’s only cute for couples to ‘enjoy’ each others farts, while others may find it both gross and disrespectful, as there’s no justification to such act. It gets worse if it’s done in public. Just check with you partner and if they don’t have issues with it then good for you both,” Said Bundo from Abuja. “When you make every effort to keep the home neat and tidy and he ends up joining the kids in making a huge clutter. I used to ignore at first, but now it’s starting to disgust me, as I am tired of talking to him about it – he just wouldn’t change”, said one Stephanie from Lagos. “I hate men who cheat. They’re like dogs to me. Sometimes I see them as pigs. Why would you make a commitment to be with someone, but you end up being a ‘community pe-is’? Some go as far as having multiple side partners. It’s so wrong.

This is the position of Monica from Portharcourt. For Ifeoma who lives in Abuja, “what disgusts me is feeling of some authority over a woman’s life e.g..one guy that that said he wanted to marry me years back… Very rich I must say.

But I borrowed ajunwa (ran for my life), when the dude started going on about how he was going to buy me a platinum gold ring and make me so happy, that I would be managing one of his boutiques in Awka and be in charge of the apprentices around that area.

This man didn’t, for one minute, think it was necessary to ask me what I wanted or if I even I wanted to run his boutique.. He was just there dictating what he wants for me. Oby in Lagos put hers this way: “Mine is particularly men that deceive girls with marriage just to sleep with them. Some even go as far as meeting your people and paying your bride price. After getting what they want, they leave you. I find that extremely disgusting!

Top 10 Inspiring TED Talks by Nigeria You Will Love .

Over the years, TED and TEDx (independently organized) conferences have gained notoriety for producing some of the most inspiring and qualitative presentations ever given on a public stage. TED talks are given by experts from diverse fields from science to literature so there is something for everyone whether you’re a science geek, wellness enthusiast or book buff. One thing they all have in common is that they encourage individual, social and political change.

Successful Nigerians have graced TED and TEDx stages around the world and few have been truly exceptional. Let’s get to know them!

1. “We Should All Be Feminists”

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie has become somewhat infamous for her feminist beliefs. The renowned novelist/ speaker is no stranger to the TED stage.
My love for TED talks was solidified after I watched the “Danger of a Single Story” released in 2009 which is another of her well-known talks given on the same platform.
We Should All Be Feminists is littered with anecdotes about her experiences with misogynistic men as a woman in Nigeria. She gives lengthy backstories that buttress the main gist of her talk which is that both sexes must embrace feminism.
Her speech was sampled in Beyonce’s 2013 hit “Flawless”. She is the author of the novels Purple Hibiscus, which won the Commonwealth Writers’ Prize and the Hurston/Wright Legacy Award; Half of a Yellow Sun, which won the Orange Prize and was a National Book Critics Circle Award Finalist and a New York Times Notable Book; and Americanah, which won the National Book Critics Circle Award and was named one of The New York Times Top Ten Best Books of 2013.

2. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

For those who don’t know, Luvvie Ajayi is the author of the New York Times best seller “I’m Judging You: The Do Better Manual”. She started off her prolific career as a writer and a speaker with her blog AwesomelyLuvvie.com in 2003.
Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable is all about getting out of you comfort zone and confronting your fears. It lays emphasis the importance of speaking up against injustice in the society. She injects a lot of humor in her presentation which the audience eats up.
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3. Overcoming the Fear of Vested Interest

Muhammadu Sanusi II, the 14th Emir of Kano, gave this speech in 2013 while he was still Governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria.
It covers the premise of vested interests which alludes to the corrupt ulterior motives of Nigeria’s ruling class. He exemplifies this using the cases of ex bank CEOs who siphoned public funds for their own personal benefits.
He ends with a call to action for young people to come together and elect more suitable leaders. The topic is controversial as it exposes the debased inner workings of government officials in Nigeria.

4. The Gift of Blindness

Cobhams Asuquo‘s talk on overcoming the his disability and fear of ending up a failure to becoming a critically acclaimed songwriter/music producer. He emphasises on the need to be “blind” to distractions in order to succeed.
His accomplishments including songwriting for Asa, Banky W, Omawumi, Eldee, Sasha, Dare Art-Alade, Waje, Timi Dakolo, Djinne, Faze, Seyi Shay, Korede Bello, Tiwa Savage to name a few under his music production company Cobhams Asuquo Music Production (CAMP) founded in 2008. He has been featured on CNN, Global Citizens Festival, World Economic Forum, Harare International Festival of Arts, AFA Sponsored French Cultural Center Concert and many more.

5. Trust Your Struggle

Zain Asher’s presentation details her journey from working as a receptionist to being a reporter for one the foremost news companies in the world, CNN. The Nigerian-British reporter talks about the importance of trusting your struggle despite challenges because the end result will justify the toil eventually.
She stresses the need to avoid a competitive mentality and getting creative instead. According to her, the more you give, the more you receive.
Asher was one of the reporters sent to Nigeria in 2014 to cover the story of the missing Chibok girls.

6. Choosing a Path of Service

This compelling presentation given by Amina J Mohammed, the present Deputy Secretary-General of the United Nations follows her journey from the private sector to becoming a high level professional in the development field. She speaks about dedication to a cause and problem solving. She believes that everyone especially young people should be involved in development and be held accountable.
She is a former Minister of Environment for Nigeria and Co-Chair of the Sustainable Development Solutions Network’s Leadership Council.

7. Failing All the Way to Success

Jason Njoku, CEO of Iroko TV tells the story of his rocky journey of entrepreneurship. He talks about starting of as a spectacular failure, being broke, moving back in with his mother and how it prepared him to take risks.
He believes failure should be embraced. That way, it would be easier to bounce back from disappointment.
In July 2012, he was cited by Forbes Africa as one of the ‘Ten Young African Millionaires to Watch’and, in 2013, Njoku was named as the CNBC All Africa Business Awards Young Leader of the Year for West Africa. He has also been named as one of Fast Company’s Top 1000 Most Creative People in Business.

8. Who Belongs in a CityOlutimehin

Adegbeye’s carefully articulated speech about coastal communities displaced by Lagos government land grabs is a must watch. She covers the destruction of slums by authorities in the quest to build “new dubai”.
For her, every life matters regardless of class and that the focus should be on the eradication of poverty, not poor people. According to her, “You don’t need to be the new Dubai when you’re already Lagos.”
She is a Nigerian writer, speaker, and activist whose work focuses on gender, women’s rights, sex, sexualities and sexual violence, as well as urban poverty and Ssustainable development.OluTimehin is an alumna of the inaugural Writing for Social Justice workshop organised by AWDF in collaboration with FEMRITE (Uganda, 2014), the Farafina Trust Creative Writing workshop (Nigeria, 2015) and the BRITDOC Queer Impact Producers Lab (USA, 2017). She is a Carrington Youth Fellow and a Women Deliver Young Leader.She is the winner of the 2019 Gerald Kraak Prize.

9. Rage for Change

Ndidi Nwuneli tells a compelling story of her journey as a social entrepreneur and lessons learned along the way. She talks about leaving the US to return to Nigeria in order to establish the Fate Foundation, a non-profit which helps unemployed young people start businesses in 2000.
She believes that young people need to get angry about social problems and “get up” from their seats and do something about it. She states emphatically, “Be mad enough to do something.”

10. Girls- Know Thyself

Kechi Okwuchi may well be the most inspiring person on this list because her story if an embodiment of resilience. The singer and motivational speaker survived the Sosoliso plane crash of 2005 and has gone on to achieve great things.
Her presentation centers on the need for young girls to find their purpose and pursue it. She urges parents to respect their children’s choices despite their fears.
She was a finalist for the twelfth season of America’s Got Talent in 2017.

70+ Nigerian street motivational quotes that will get you to hustle Read more:

Why do people wake up so early and come back late from the hustle? Making it in life without hustling is impossible. Sometimes you feel like giving up, but life has no way of quitting. Nigerian quotes about hustling will inspire and motivate you to keep going.

Nigeria street motivational quotes Nigerians are among the most hardworking people in the world, and their hustle mainly takes place in the streets. Here are a few motivational quotes that will inspire you not to give up.

A big fish is caught with bait.

We are what our thinking makes us.

Please create your opportunities,

don’t wait for them to come to you.

Waking up early makes the road short.

If you are making a house and a nail breaks,

do you stop building, or do you change the nail?

A little rain every day makes the river overflow.

Yesterday’s unsuccessful people are successful today.

The monkey learns how to jump from the tree by trying often enough.

However heavy it rains, no banana will grow on top of your head.

Hardworking is living a few years like most people won’t so that you can spend the rest of your life like most people can’t.

The Email That Ended My 20 Year Marriage

The message began,

“While I know now that continuing the marriage is not in my best interest…”

Just one sentence to explain our two decades together.

I was allowed in the marriage as long as it was to his benefit.

I’d already known we were over. I’d started stepping away months earlier, but I’d stayed a participant just long enough to keep my lifestyle safe.

I needed time to plan my exit — stash cash, retain an attorney, get as many credit cards as my decent credit score would allow. All the things to keep me afloat for what would be the biggest battle of my life.

Three weeks prior to that email I’d changed the locks. Although not totally legal, it was necessary. Turns out having your name on the house deed trumps erratic, stalking behavior.

His actions had become more wild, his behavior more scary. His stalking had increased and when that was taken from him when I disabled the cameras, he forced his way into the home he had so enthusiastically left eleven months earlier.

A home that no longer welcomed him.

Once again, I was in a position to remove guns from my home to keep me and my children safe. I was willing to ask the courts for forgiveness since the law would not protect us.

As soon as I shut off the house cameras and disengaged the Life360, I knew things would get hostile. His actions early in the separation told me he would be enraged as soon as he lost control.

Not long after he moved out he stopped by the house at 5am to drop off a pillowcase in the mailbox. He later admitted it was just an excuse to drive by and see if there were any cars near the house that he didn’t recognize. I would also catch him driving by at random times, just to make sure the house wasn’t occupied by another man.

Just weeks before the end, he turned to playing the role of a jealous lover. Trying to track my whereabouts — desperately calling, texting, pleading.

He was like a dog in a cage. Biting and thrashing until he would finally succumb to the exhaustion.

I just had to wait him out.

The race was on.

He had also been planning his exit — setting up a new bank account with $15k of our money, purchasing a new car and opening new credit card accounts.

He had been leaving since he walked out. But at the time I wasn’t ready or willing to give up. I was the toddler holding on to the leg of their parent as they tried to leave the house. I would not let him go easily.

Until I was ready.

And then, as Taylor Swift so perfectly puts it, I dropped his hand.

Eventually, I would stop trying to save our abomination of a relationship. We never could walk together side by side. One of us was always chasing. Mostly me.

Only when he saw me leaving did he start running back.

I was careful and deliberate in my exit. I saved every communication. Every text message. Every email. Every phone call.

My super power became my willingness to track the minutiae.

It was a miserable, humid July day when I delivered his goodbye email to my attorney. It turned out to be the perfect gift. Because it was something she could pull out over and over and over again during the trial.

“Your Honor, I believe she has proven the date of separation by providing the message that he wrote himself ending their marriage.”

The date of that message was the most important date of my trial. It gave me 10 extra months of a growing retirement plan. 10 extra months of a share of a military retirement. 10 extra months of a marriage.

That sentence at the beginning of his email would secure the date of the end of my marriage not through just one trial, but through two.